Do you ever find yourself hiding how lonely you are as your partner leaves for work. You sit in meetings with no confidence so you coast and hope no one wants your input. When the shop keepers asks how you are today and you say, ‘Im good thanks’ and as your walking out of the door you know deep down you’re sad.
Everyone around you is getting on with their lives and they have no idea how you are feeling. You can be sitting with a group of friends laughing the night away but deep down you are comparing yourself asking why you aren’t good enough or have the life they have.
It feels hopeless and overwhelming and you don’t know where to start.
How did we get here?
When we are not clear on what we want out of life we find ourselves living day by day with no real cause or meaning. Everything is reactive and it can be exhausting.
Bit by bit overtime, everyone else has become the priority and you forget to check in with yourself so you lose confidence.
You’ve lost the focus on what YOU want out of life. Not much thought has been given to how you want your relationship to be and because no one asks you, you don’t know or say what’s important for you.
Other areas of your life become neglected. Healthy boundaries are blurred. You find yourself picking up extra responsibility which leaves no time or space for you.
Your time is consumed with everyone else’s needs but your own.
I took a huge risk!
I had to hit rock bottom before I reached out for help. I consumed at least 30 hours of TV each week. Did little activities for myself or family. Drifted from one week to the next.
Self help books are great but they can only take you so far.
So I stopped having takeaways and weekly quick fix purchases and used my spare money to invest in myself and enrol onto High Performance Coaching Programme. I wanted a different life and to stop struggling through everyday.
As part of the programme I was invited to San Diego to participate in a weeks training at High Performance Academy with Brendon Burchard. Everything was against me not to go. I had no savings for the trip so had to use my credit card. My childcare let me down at the last minute so then I had to book a flight for my daughter to come with me. It was a huge risk and a lot of money which I had never spent on myself before.
But the minute I stepped off the plane, I knew it was the right thing for me. It was exciting and I was taking steps to a better life. I was meeting great people, I was learning techniques that gave me confidence and the ability to live. I got healthy, I was smiling, I had a better understanding of who I was and I knew this was the beginning of a great life for me and my family.
So, fast forward today and if someone asks me, ‘how are you’, I answer with honesty because I’m no longer lonely, or worry about being judged. My learnings support me if I’m having a bad day. I now know how to quieten the negative thoughts and be consistent with my goals. Ive allowed myself to open up doors to new experiences, beginnings and opportunites.
Risk always works out
San Diego – High Performance Academy 2017
So now, when Im embarking on something new and it feels risky, I know that I have to do it because something good always comes from jumping right in and prioritising me. I don’t talk myself out of challenges now but I talk myself through it.
That’s what we all want isn’t it. The ability to be able to say this is what I want, or this is how I feel about this or this is my boundary and Im okay with it.
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One of the first techniques I learnt was to plan my day.
I’m giving you a free high performance planning tool to help you get started. It is easy to use and if you follow it every day you will start to gain momentum. I’ve taken the thinking out of it for you and all you have to do is spend ten minutes each day planning out what you would like to achieve.
You will start to see results straightaway and you will get a feeling of accomplishment.
I promise you this tool will help and when you start to see things happening you then become confident.
It’s a great tool for in your personal and professional life. Give it a go.
what I want to to do and dont minimise my wants and needs for others. Ive got over the fear of disappointing others and it has opened up doors to personal growth. I set boundaries for myself and it contributes to a healthier, more balanced life for me.
I’m now living and being my authentic self and it fosters genuine connections with others and I’m surrounded by people who cheer me on.
My self-care is important and it becomes more attainable when Im not trying to meet others’ expectations.
It’s comforting to have someone to discuss ideas, share options, and talk things through. Whether you’re striving to lead a team or seeking personal growth, we all need a trusted confidant who we can share our struggles and concerns with.
Together, we can navigate any doubts, concerns and insecurities you may have. But it is important to understand that during these moments of vulnerability that having a coach by your side becomes invaluable.
Ive always been blessed with the knowledge that life is precious and I waste no time living my life with meaning, courage and being fearless. You deserve the same too.
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I believe in you…..You’ll See.