Why do bad things always happen to me?
I often hear this when bad things happen. Why Me? The reality is, why not you?
Life happens, and I know that sounds harsh but it’s the truth.
I speak from experience. Life has thrown me some cruel hands over the years. There have been times when I thought I wouldn’t get through the day. However, I’ve also learnt that we are much stronger than we think we are.
Honour the struggle
When I was training at High Performance Academy with the World’s No 1 Coach Brendon Burchard in California, he introduced a phrase – ‘Honour the Struggle’.
At first, I thought this was a crazy idea. How can you honour something that is giving you pain? But then I realised that it’s in the struggle that you become stronger. It makes you a better person.
It was here that I also heard the phrase, ‘Good days will come again.’ Sometimes we are so focussed on the things that are going wrong in our lives that we forget about the good days. When I first heard this phrase, it gave me hope. And sometimes a little bit of hope is all we need to get moving in the right direction.
Nothing is permanent
When life happens to me now, I go through the same emotions as the next person – disappointment, frustration, even anger – but it quickly subsides when I focus on the good things in my life. I also know that I can deal with anything life throws at me because I have developed a strong mind and heathy, positive mindset habits to get me through the day, weeks, or months ahead.
Think of a time that was difficult for you. At the time you think ‘how am I going to get through this?’ – but you do.
Nothing is permanent, and that goes for good times as well as the bad.
New Perspectives
So how do you get through the tough times? Here are just a few of the techniques I share with my clients.
You are what you focus on. If you focus on what isn’t going well, then you will see nothing else. Look for the positives. The smallest of things. There is always something. By practising this daily routine, you are retraining your mind to look at the positives and this helps you through those tough days.
Journal the small wins. Writing down the small steps you have taken, or positive affirmations will support you in looking at the world with a new perspective. Practise this daily and within a few days you will start to notice a difference. Keep your journal close so you remember to take the time to write the wins down.
Small steps
Take small steps, one day at a time. Focus on what you can control today. You may not be able to control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond. You are the one in charge of what you think, so try to keep control of your emotions and don’t let them overtake how you react. It’s important to understand that your feelings aren’t facts.
It’s comforting to have someone to discuss ideas, share options, and talk things through. Whether you’re striving to lead a team or seeking personal growth, we all need a trusted confidant who we can share our struggles and concerns with.
Together, we can navigate any doubts, concerns and insecurities you may have. But it is important to understand that during these moments of vulnerability that having a coach by your side becomes invaluable.
Ive always been blessed with the knowledge that life is precious and I waste no time living my life with meaning, courage and being fearless. You deserve the same too.
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I believe in you…..You’ll See.