You can’t please everyone.
As Managers, we like to think we can take on everything and be there for everyone but then the smallest of situations can tip us over the edge.
There is fine line between engaging with your team, your boss, your colleagues versus becoming a people pleaser.
You want to nurture your team, and you don’t want to have difficult conversations but it is costing you.
You’re aware that you’re not in alignment with your authentic self, and the frustration is a constant presence, at times more subtly discernible than others, but persistently simmering beneath the surface.
People pleasing behaviour also overflows into your personal life. You find yourself saying yes so much more than you want to and it can be pretty miserable and draining.
It feels difficult to say, ‘No’.
It can feel easier to say yes to that extra workload or task, or to work over to meet deadlines. You don’t raise objections in meetings because it feels overwhelming and you start caring less.
Your way of working becomes a habit and you find its a difficult one to change.
Let’s start to prioritise you.
Set Boundaries: Clearly define your personal boundaries and communicate them. Start small, and but start saying no. It will feel unfamiliar at first, but trust me, it will get easier over time and the guilt will soon start to lift.
Develop Self-Awareness: Cultivate self-awareness to recognise when you’re engaging in people-pleasing behaviors. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and actions to identify patterns that need adjustment.
Celebrate Your Achievements: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, both big and small. Recognise the value of staying true to yourself and assertively expressing your needs.
The lessons I’ve learnt.
Reaching for support in this area would be the kindest most effective solution to help you to become the priority and stop feeling repressed.
My clients have all lost themselves at some point in their careers and I’ve witnessed huge success and achievements when they adopt my High Performance Techniques and become a self assured Manager.
Together, we look at how courageous you are and what situations you could be backing down from.
You will learn effective techniques to bring in the most courageous version of yourself and understand when to use your new leadership skills.
I dedicate a whole section to Purpose. In the session we look at how we can let the people in your life know your purpose and how they can support you.
You will learn new Psychology techniques such as RWID, Relative Weight of Importance and Duration. How much time and energy are you giving to negative thoughts and how to move away from them.
Book a strategy call to chat about where you are today and how you could become the self assured leader you truly are.
You’ll never glance backward; instead, like my clients, you’ll evolve into a high-performing manager, reclaiming control of your life on your terms.
Managment shouldn’t be lonely, but an empowering role full of growth, accomplishment and achievement.
I believe everyone can get to where we want to be with belief, knowledge and support rather than hoping your efforts get recognised.
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